About

Parenting for me has so far been the most demanding, difficult and confusing task I’ve ever had to undertake.  Partly because it is in itself, just that, but mostly because I am raising my kids in a different society from where I was raised myself.  I am a born-and-bred Nigerian woman and I’m currently living in North America with my family, the Honey Bunch (we love Honey Bunches of Oats).  My husband is also born-and-bred in Nigeria, while my 2 lil girls were born here in North America.

I am currently a stay-at-home mom, and that is about the most daunting role what will make even the most heroic person shiver.  The job description has no place for lunch breaks, day-offs, sick leaves, vacation days and anything in that realm.  And the truth is that unless you have help in form of a chef, a nanny or a chauffuer (which you know would cost you not just an arm and a leg, but your entire body), it’s pretty difficult to run a family in this part of the world.

 This blog is about the challenges that parents and family face here in North America and how different life here really is from what it is percieved as back home in Nigeria.  The view in Nigeria about people living abroad is that they have life on a platter of gold.  They would give anything to come abroad and live.  Most of the time, we are not prepared for what we see when we come here, especially when we start a family.  The demands that are placed on us are so heavy that most times we fall beneath the weight, hence the high rate of divorces and single-parenting.

This blog is a bit of an eye-opener for Nigerians about what to expect when living abroad and raising kids.  Hopefully, it will prepare new Nigerians travelling abroad, and also encourage those of us already here.  

Okay, I’ll stop being patronising.  Mostly, it’s an outlet for me to relieve myself and interact with other Nigerian moms who are going through this dame phase.  Sometimes, you just need a bit of encouragement.